Spoiler alert: adulthood is 96% of you going “well, I hope this is how it works and I’ll keep doing it till someone yells at me”
why is everyone in aladdin hot
my original statement stands
Anonymous said: (im sorry if this isnt the proper place to submit this) my girlfriend wants to begin ftm transition, and im a lesbian. im not sure how to feel about this, i fully support her, but im just not as attracted to her now that i know this. i dont want to break up with her because of this, im just really not sure what to do (´Д` )
Well, since you make it sound like your partner is transmasculine, I doubt ‘she’ ‘her’ and ‘girlfriend’ are words you should be using.
Luckily, your feelings on the transition of your partner don’t play in. If you’re going to be transphobic, maybe it’s best if you do break up, or you learn about this shit. Don’t want to be harsh, but this ask reeks of misgendering.
Ask your partner what pronouns they want you to use. Use them.
Ask your partner what gender they are. Accept it.
Ask your partner what they want you to call them. Call them the name.
It’s not transphobic to not be attracted to a certain gender tho.
Like if your significant other decides they are a different gender and you’re still attracted, that’s cool but if you’re just not into girls and your significant other is mtf then that’s not transphobic. You’re just not into girls no matter what.
Seems like if you’re just not into dudes and you can’t just get by it in your own head, breaking up would be the best option because if this person wants to transition, you can’t and shouldn’t stop them but you’re also not forced to suddenly like men.
If they’re transitioning and want to identify as a man and have a male body, and you’re not attracted to men at all, there’s nothing that can be done.
You can’t just ask a lesbian to like dudes just this one time it just doesn’t work that way, regardless of transitions.
If I decided I’m no longer going to be male, I wouldn’t expect a straight female to be attracted to me after the transition. Their sexuality just doesn’t match up with my gender anymore.
They did likely misgender this person(It’s possible the person still identifies as female and has not but is considering a transition) but that’s not an unforgivable sin, especially for someone in a situation like this. It isn’t an easy thing to deal with.
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